MrSpkr's random thoughts . . .: Posing a question . . .

Monday, September 12, 2005

Posing a question . . .
This weekend is my high school's 20th reunion.

I hadn't planned on going -- high school was a very ugly period in my life, generally because of family issues -- and I wasn't all that interested in the concept of seeing so many people from that time in my life. It's not that I had a problem with those people in particular -- it was more that I've spent a lot of time trying to forget things from that time in my life, and I was distinctly uncomfortable with the possibility of some of those old demons returning to haunt me again.

I did sign up at Classmates.com a while back. Why? Who knows. But I did.

About a month ago, I got an email about the reunion. I've joined a chat group, though I have yet to actually post anything, for the group.

Tonight, I joined a photo group for the reunion. The person running it said she remembered me from high school, which I found interesting. I remembered her name, but didn't remember what she looked like until I pulled my old yearbook down.

Now, I'm toying with the idea of going. Money for the trip (300 miles each way) would be tight, and it might be hard to make accomodations this late in the game, but it might be worthwhile.

Or maybe I shouldn't. I just don't know.

Lords I hate being this indecisive! Any advice in the comments would be appreciated.
- posted by MrSpkr @ 19:47

Comments:

MrSpkr,

I came here via your comments on the Ann Althouse site and read this post. It seems to me your interest about the reunion was only really piqued until after you confirmed the identity of the person running the photo group. You don't say so but it's obvious you approved of her picture. Could you be thinking this might lead to some kind of romance? If so, do you think that's the best motivation for this kind of thing? Like you, high school for me was a painful time, though in many ways it was the best of times. Still, I don't think I would want to risk spoiling the good memories with the bad. I greatly enjoyed attending my wife's high school reunions but I have no desire whatsoever to attend mine. Perhaps it might be best to leave well enough alone or, at least, examine more closely your motivations for going.

Whatever your decision, I wish you luck.

# posted by

Pete : Monday, September 12, 2005 8:30:00 PM

No, no, no. Not romance at all. I'm very happily married (or at least as happily as I can get).

To be honest, I'm not sure what the motivation is. Part could be just sheer curiousity; part might be seeking affirmation; part might be just wanting to see how things would be.

I'll figure it out. I'll pray on it -- that usually helps.

Thanks for stopping by, Pete. If you liked what you saw, stop in again sometime.

# posted by

MrSpkr : Monday, September 12, 2005 11:11:00 PM

Whoops. Sorry 'bout the speculation of romance. I returned this morning to see if there was something I needed to address and, sure enough, there was. I should have spent the 7.5 seconds needed to scan your profile to see you are, in fact, married and I'm quite pleased to learn happily so.

Yes, praying on it is the best course of action. As I thought further about this, I was going to point out that God has put your where you are for a reason and that perhaps it's best you not attend the reunion. Then again, perhaps He's put this opportunity before you for His own reasons as well. Prayer can only help you sort it out.

You might recall from my brief Coburn post on the Althouse site, I'm up here in Oklahoma. You mention you're a Sooners fan as well as being 300 miles away from your reunion. My conclusion: you're a kindred Oklahoman. Am I far off?

(I'm a tax accountant here in Oklahoma City, married to a stunningly beautiful woman and father to two gorgeous daughters. Heaven? You betcha'.)

Thanks for the invitation to return. I'll do the best I can.

Take care.

# posted by

Pete : Tuesday, September 13, 2005 6:13:00 AM

Two words in favor of going:

Rain-making

# posted by

Anonymous : Tuesday, September 13, 2005 7:35:00 PM

You're a Sooners fan? I guess I like you even more now.:)

My 20th is next year, but it's about 1200 miles away, so I'm not really that interested in going. We might go for my wife's 20th the year after. She graduated from the same high school, but was a lot more socially involved than I was.

Boomer Sooner

# posted by

digitalbrownshirt : Wednesday, September 14, 2005 8:52:00 PM

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